Friday, March 19, 2010

1983 - Wrong Number


Finally... the kind of story eveyone likes... a short one... in fact, from what I heard... a tiny, little one...

1983 – Wrong Number

Larry? I’ve got a call. She says it’s your wife. Should I put it through?”

“Why would she be calling me? Uhh… Sure, Shirley. Put ‘er through.” A click and a new voice came on the line.

“Larry, is this you?”

“Yeah?”

“You bastard! If you think you can just walk out and I won’t care you are 100% wrong! You suck!” I was in shock as the friendly female voice suddenly turned vicious. “Do you have any consideration at all for me… or your kids? I don’t know how you can think you can spend the night with another woman and I won’t notice! I don’t know how she can stand you, anyway! You’re a lousy lover with a tiny little dick, which is appropriate ‘cause you are such a little dick anyway. If you think…”

“Excuse me?” I tried to break into her rant. The voice didn’t sound familiar and certainly was not my wife.

“…you can buy jewelry for her and take her on your supposed business trips without me noticing… you… I pay the damn bills! What kind of an idiot are you that you would try…”

“Uhh, excuse me, but…”

“…to get away with these kinds of bills for hotels in town and jewelry shop that I’ve never even been to! And what the hell were you doing in a TJ motel? I pay the stupid credit cards! What…”

“Excuse me, hello?”

A pause… “Hello? Is this Larry?” her voice was much quieter and uncertain.

“Yes, I’m Larry, but… What Larry are you calling?”

“I’m calling for Larry Doe (real person, not his name). Did I get the wrong number?” The voice was even quieter. I’m sure at this point she didn’t recognize my voice any more than I recognized hers.

“Ahh, I think I saw him this morning, hold on and I’ll transfer…” A dial tone sounded in my ear. I now knew a lot more about Larry Doe than I wanted to and, although I may have been a bit surprised…

She may have been quite-a-bit more embarrassed.

Friday, March 12, 2010

Rant: One Nation Under God

Ahh, my first real rant. Take it or leave it.


Dear Friends –

Not long ago I received the following message from one of my many friends:

“I PLEDGE ALLEGIANCE TO THE FLAG, OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, AND TO THE REPUBLIC, FOR WHICH IT STANDS, ONE NATION UNDER GOD, INDIVISIBLE, WITH LIBERTY AND JUSTICE FOR ALL!

I was asked to send this on if I agree or delete if I don't.

It is said that 86% of Americans believe in God.

Therefore I have a very hard time understanding why there is such a problem in having "In God! We Trust" on our money and having "God" in the Pledge of Allegiance. Why don't we just tell the 14% to Shut Up and BE QUIET!!!

If you agree, pass this on, if not delete. .

I AGREE!!!

PLEASE KEEP THIS GOING, EVEN IF YOU HAVE PASSED IT ON BEFORE!!

Please send this on after a short prayer!!!

Prayer wheel for our soldiers, sailors, and airmen...please don't break it.”


Unfortunately, for them, this pushed one of my many buttons. My reply was:


I know you just sent this along to several people you thought might be interested but that, unfortunately, makes you a handy target for a rant.

You see, I chose a third option besides "pass-it-on" or "delete". I chose to express my opinion.

What happened to people thinking for themselves?
This whole God in public "thing" is a tempest in a teapot and blown WAY out of proportion.

No one has the right or power to "make" me say anything I don't choose to say.

I stopped saying the "under God" part when I was about 8-years old and beginning to think for myself - including (oh-golly should I say this?) questioning if God was superstition or fact. As I wasn't sure, I was not going to pledge to a being I wasn't sure existed. My opinion on that may or may not have changed, it is my own business... ...but my rights have not.

I didn't ask my parents, I didn't tell my minister, I didn't get permission from my teacher. I made my own decision and followed through on it.

I don't need permission to stop saying part or all of the pledge and I don't need a law to try to force me to say it.

My dad used to say your rights stop at my eyes, ears and nose - just as my rights stop at your eyes, ears and nose.

I shouldn't be forced to watch what I don't want to watch, which is why I have control over my cable box and the ability to walk away or change the channel.

I shouldn't have to hear what I don't want to hear, including obscenities that insult my sense of propriety as this is not free speech, and it is basically rude and thoughtless of others. Most often, if I am offended, I walk away.

I should not suffer physical abuse because another person cannot control their anger.

Likewise I should be restricted from trying to force my weird point of view upon anyone else. Of course I am allowed my opinion but you don't have to listen to it as one of us could be wrong and it is as likely to be me as it is you. We should all make our own decisions for ourselves as long as it is within the law and the law is just for ALL.

I have known those that refuse to pledge to anything - this is also their right - we do not, yet, live in a theocracy or a police state that tries to regulate what we think or say.

So I say:
Pray before each meeting, before each game, before each class.
Put your cross, you’re Buddha, your star or your ashram anywhere you want.
You can even put it next-door to me.
I don't have the right to tell you not to.
Just don't try to force me to participate.
It is your right to worship anyway you desire and my right to refuse if I disagree.

Come on!! Buck up people. Start making your own decisions, stop trying to force your opinion down everyone else's throat and stop waiting for the government to regulate every little thing you do.

Here's a weird thought you can ignore or take to heart - start thinking for yourselves.

Of course this is just my opinion...and I may be wrong.

Thank-you,
- Larry

BS - You may, of course choose to delete this, pass it on or reply with your own opinion. You decide.

Friday, March 5, 2010

1969 - A Little Pressure

I've been under various kinds of pressure in my life. The pressure of a deadline, the pressure of a baby on the way or the pressure of waiting for the diagnosis of a loved one. There's the pressure of getting all of the various components of a meal served all together, with everything on-time; let's include the pressure in the steamer used to assure the flash-steamed veggies are cooked to perfection. There's the pressure of waiting for news of an international meeting or the outcome of a distant battle...

1969 - A Little Pressure

“L
ooks like you’ve gotten some wisdom teeth in need of removal,” the doctor said. I had gone to the Dixie (AD-14) for some dental work. As a repair ship they rarely got underway usually moving from one “permanent” port to another. This time we were in Sasabo, Japan. “Your wisdom teeth are deforming the placement of your other teeth. Your mouth just isn’t big enough for all those teeth… they’re gonna have to come out.”

I wasn’t concerned. I had had mostly good experiences with dentists. This, despite experiences with my boyhood dentist. More about that in a moment, but, for now, I had no concerns. “Ok. Let’s go for it,” I said preparing my head for some invasive dentistry.

The dentist left to prepare an anesthetic and prepare his instruments for the upcoming work. In a few minutes he came back with the tray of needles, anesthetic and instruments he would be using on my teeth. Seeing the tray brought me back to my boyhood dentist and an incident that has stayed with me all these years.

Our family dentist was a fellow Moose Club member and was used by many members. He had a second-story office downtown Zion so Mom would drop me off and do her shopping, stopping by later to pick me up and continue home. I still recall every time a dentist arrives with the tray my boyhood dentist arriving with a similar tray although his was slightly different from any tray I had seen since as my boyhood dentist always, every single time, brought a big horse needle and syringe which always was accompanied by remarks that drew my attention to the big instrument. After a few minutes of threatening and joking he would put it away and hit me with the much smaller and much more appropriate needle. I’ve often thought back to those days and wondered why he used the same tired joke every time. I’ve come to the conclusion he thought seeing this huge instrument served to help calm the patient when the actual needle was revealed.

I’m not sure how valid this tactic would be as it mostly just scared me and I didn’t see any relationship between the fake and the real. In fact the time I am recalling he had done his horse-needle thing and laughed and joked about it until he told me to open in preparation for the procedure. I noticed he hadn’t given me any pain-killer but assumed he knew what he was doing and I probably didn’t need any for whatever he was going to do. He had fired up the drill when I heard Mom in the outside office. “Doctor! Doctor!”

He shut the drill off and rolled off his stool into a standing position, after which he walked to the front office. As his was a 1-man operation, there was no receptionist so he had to respond personally. I heard mom tell Doc that I had forgotten my jacket then the conversation got quieter and more difficult to hear. Next thing I knew Mom was standing next to the chair and telling me to put my jacket on, we were leaving. I was later to find out, overhearing the adult conversation that evening, that the smell I simply figured as the doctor’s standard breath was whisky. We changed dentists after that although I have no recollection of the new dentist… probably because he didn’t use the horse-needle joke and was competent enough to give me no unpleasant memories.

I was drawn back to my situation on the Dixie. The doctor instructed me to open wide and he shot me with the appropriate amount of Novocain. After a few minutes he began working on my mouth and I relaxed into the chair with eyes closed and feeling very comfortable as, like I mentioned previously, dentists, despite my early experience with one, never bother me. I remain this way to today although even this removal didn’t go as smoothly as I had assumed it would go. I week later I would begin to feel the pressure of a dry socket and retuned to the dentist who saw no problems and released me to go back to work in preparation for some time at sea. A dry socket was later explained to me as a pocket of air that has been trapped inside the wound as it healed over the top. I was told the air inside the wound prevented the internal healing and caused the incredible amount of pain I was feeling. As I was at sea for around 30-days it was a miserable 30-days during which the ship’s doctor looked at the problem but could not see anything that caused him any concern. I was in a constant fog resulting from the pain but still managed to get my job done as required. This continued until one day before leaving the gun-line for a friendly port, and standing in the chow line, I noticed what I thought was a piece of steak, from our last meal, stuck between a couple of back teeth. Gripping it with my fingernails I pulled it time and time again failing each time to get a grip that would hold as I tried to pull the invader from between my teeth. I had been trying this obsessively off and on for a few hours but was always unsuccessful in getting a good grip until, this time; I managed to get a firm grip… and jerked.

Pain!! Sharp pain!! Then... hu.hu.huh... relief... Amazing, comforting, warm, happy relief. I had pulled the stitch out of the socket and the constant dull throbbing pressure that caused the constant pain had disappeared. I was told I had a huge smile showing through my bloody lips. The blood stopped almost immediately and the socket healed perfectly within a couple of days, but all of this was still to come and I, having no ability to read the future was still relaxed in the dentist’s chair as he worked away on my impacted wisdom tooth. He had pulled and pulled to no avail announcing that my roots must so long they must be wrapped around my “damn jawbone.” He left for additional instruments and the excitement of the work stopped and I relaxed back into what was quickly becoming a gentle doze. I absently noticed his continuing efforts almost as a disinterested party as he tried one thing after another, stopping at one point to renew the anesthetic, then continuing on after a few minutes to let the new batch of pain-killer take effect. I absent-mindedly noticed he wasn’t having much success when he got my attention by saying “Well, we’re not having a lot of luck with this tooth. We’re going to have to break it up to get it out.”

That didn’t sound particularly good but I didn’t have much of a reaction until he said “There’s going to be some pressure here.” Now THAT got my attention because by now I knew that when a dentist said “pressure” they very probably meant “pain.” I roused myself slightly so I was prepared when I felt the sharp blow. Another! And again! “This isn’t working,” he said, “we’re going to have to try something else.” He paused. “Ok. There’s going to be a little pressure,” he announced.

I thought “He already said that,” so when I felt a weight on my chest I was understandably surprised. I opened my eyes to see my dentist with a mad-determined look on his face. My vision was partially blocked by his hand that was wrapped around what appeared to be a chisel and his other hand, the one containing the little metal mallet, was on the upswing high over his head. The pressure on my chest was HIS KNEE! The knee was placed directly in the middle of my chest and his other foot rested on the foot rest we now easily shared as my short legs caused my feet to barely touch the foot-rest.

Wham!!

Wham! Wham! Wham!!

After the third blow the knee came off and I heard the mallet hit the tray. I opened my eyes and closed them quickly when I saw the blood splattered across his chest. “Ahh, success.” He murmured.

The assistant quietly agreed, “Yeah. That was a tough one.”

I sat listening in a slight state of shock having witnessed, from close proximity, mad violence upon my person… Yeah, ok… just my mouth. But, believe me, my whole body was involved. Sore muscles and a still vibrating jaw proved that fact.

He and his assistant then worked quietly pulling various sized shards of tooth out of my mouth. Although the pain-killer was working well I could still feel the pull and release from each piece of tooth. Watching, now fully alert, I saw a small pile of enamel bits and pieces growing on his tray. After a little while he finished up and put in the stitches that would shortly result in that dry-socket. For now I was fine but I don’t think I’ll ever assume, again, what a dentist means when he says “There’ll be a little pressure.”

Yeah, right… a little pressure.